Unilateral power is all about influencing another. In this schema another's gain is our loss. This non-relational view of self creates a sense of power that is abstract in its activities and missing much of reality, frankly unwilling to engage what one believes one cannot influence. But "the fact is that those aspects of people or nature of God which we neglect tend to revenge themselves on us" (178).
We are not in control of reality. We do well to accurately acknowledge what is happening.