My typical sins for so long were what some call sins of omission, not commission, detailed in the above prayer. Because of the sins against me as a child, I had shrunk, and resisted becoming responsible. This kind of behavior can be called sin, but it is a different kind of sin than the one we confessed together in our pews.
I believe it is in a Eucharistic prayer that we sometimes pray, "Forgive us for coming to this thy table for solace only and not for strength . . ." That was my sin. My only strength was tenacity. I was going to survive. But my survival was ugly.
I remember the day that I brought home a phrase from our prayer book, declaring that our home would be characterized by "unity, constancy, and peace." I began making peace that day as I risked loosing everything I thought I had.
Accurately identifying our sins is a significant first step toward wholeness. Then doing what we wish Jesus would do for us, is a step toward maturity.